Let’s take a moment and praise everything we don’t usually. Let’s notice the things without which life is ugly but we never pray for them, Let’s use our senses to the little things in life which makes all the difference but we don’t harness them to our advantage rather we have put it in a danger.
We work in big, ugly buildings, the bigger the better , the more high-tech it is, the more we feel accomplished, while they are so far from nature and it doesn’t bother us much. Our cities are a mess, and eatables are adulterated just like our integrity. Our roads, our parks, our empty plots are filled with so much filth, it’s appalling.
We pray for a lot of money, travelling to far and wide places while the beauty near us is in shambles.
No matter how much money you have, in the end hearing the birds chirp, leaves rusting in the wind and sunrise makes life more fulfilling than ipads and the gadgets we are swarmed with.
The way we are bringing up our children is even worse. They should know about everything but converting their free time into a busy time with some futile activity only makes your children hyper and the time they can contemplate into a time pass. They are not going to get this time back. The way your children can imagine NOW and feel NOW, they won’t be able to do that when they grow up even when exposed with the same things. So it’s better to expose them to stuff that matters. Here is a list I could think of, there could be more but this is it for now.
1. Make them listen to nature. To the birds, leaves, make them climb trees, make them lie down in the hammocks. Let them dance in the rain. Let them sit and play in the park with themselves. Show them sunrise and sunset.
2. Let them run after moon and the setting sun, let them observe the multi-colours of the sunset.
3. Keep them away from gadgets and mindless cartoons. When they grow up, they won’t be able to cherish those cartoons the way they would be able to imagine how nature made them feel.
4. Make them paint the nature.
5. Let them love the animals. Keep pets.
6. Teach them love for others, don’t gossip in front of them.
7. Let them read books with illustrations, pictures.
8. Read to them if they are young. Read to yourself.
9. Whatever you want to teach your kids, first teach that to yourself.
10. And if you are too busy to do all this with your children, please produce less of them. Don’t ruin their lives by teaching them the same competition and selfishness you learned, don’t convert them into a rat and chase after your own dreams. Let them have their own dreams and give them the freedom to chase it.
11. Not every kid has to gain the so-called ‘Professional Qualifications’. Kindly use your brain or whatever is left of that. Let them be what they are.
12. Trust your child and be their friend. God has given you your child but you are not a God to your child now. Just like every other relationship, you have limited rights and duties. If God has not given himself unlimited rights then how can He give parents or children unlimited rights!
13. Don’t teach them right from wrong by giving the reason ’What will people think?’ Tell them why what’s wrong is wrong and is not to be done. Keep reiterating, one day they will understand.
14. Last but the most important thing is: Your kids have a higher activity level, they want to do something all the time, give them something to keep them busy. Let them do dishes with you rather than making them see ‘ Sheela ki jawani’.or those wailing saas bahu,doosri aurat and bhaajpan dramas. Let them make their own sandwiches, juices etc. Let them dance and let them earn after they are 15 at least. Rather than forcing them to collect degrees till 21,22 and then expecting them to become a CEO by the age 23.
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